On showing your feathers
I met guy, we got to chatting. I found myself liking him. Consequently, I instantly felt I was in trouble. I was informed enough about the do's and don'ts of dating to understand that if I were to begin showing interest, as I like to do when I'm—well—interested, there was potential that the relationship could fade.
-It's simply human nature. -Anything you chase in life runs away.
-Our species are not designed to be monogamous creatures.
According to history, research, opinion, and/or experience (take your pick), if I were to remain relatively aloof, he should theoretically stick around and even remain persistent. However, there is also the flip side of frustrating a person...
…you guessed it.
To the point of ghosting.
Stuck at an Intersection
Cars zipping past like mechanized people dressed in various shades of chalk, tinsel, lapis; the fiery ones catch your eye, and—BAM—they are gone, fast as recent prospect on a dating app. The novelty comes and goes in a matter of minutes, between traffic light changes, or seconds—a pause at a yield sign. Sometimes, the power goes out and you look in all directions, wondering, Who is driving, and where are we going?
Google the following: “principle of least interest.”
It’s fascinating stuff, and begs a very intriguing question: How does one display just enough interest to hold someone's attention (without prematurely turning them off); additionally, avoid having the tables turned on them once they finally decide to 'show their feathers' and invest in the relationship?
In a society where courtship, dating, and mating is a competition, what is the best strategy to play for a tie?
I'd hate to leave you on a rhetorical note, so if you find yourself scratching your head, check out the recommended reads below. -xoxo
The Man's Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from "Love Lab" About What Women Really Want by John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman
Chris Maynard from Olympia, WA, is a full-time artist who collects feathers of birds when they shed or discard them each year. He then recycles them in his art. He believes "feathers mark nature's pinnacle of achievement: the intersection of function and beauty."